Just finished the meeting not too long ago, and I must say everything went really really well; it caught me by surprise. I am honestly glad that this concern of mine has been lifted up and now we can continue planning for our wedding with no worries. :)
Customary wise, the groom's family would need to present a few items such as sugar cane, live chickens, coconuts, rock sugar etc etc for the 'Guo Dai Lai' (i.e. The Betrothal of Gifts) to the bride's family. I guess these items carries good meaning - i.e prosperity, wealth, health, long happy marriage etc etc.
The roast pig is also a must - in Cantonese it sounds like "Kong Sa Chu", which signifies virginity. If the groom is satisfied that the bride he is marrying is a virgin, a whole roast pig would be sent to the brides' home. If not, its' tail and ears will be broken off. The bride will only retain the middle portion of the pig, whereas the head and tail would be returned back to the groom. Accompanying the head and tail would be clothing and belt for the groom as gifts. These items will be placed in between the head and tail of the pig, which is then wrapped around in red paper to be presented back to the groom.
Further, the groom's family would need to provide some biscuits/cakes to the bride's family too. These biscuits/cakes will be given to her relatives' when the invitation card is pass out. Of course, to top it off the dowry is also another very essential topic that will be talked about.
We also discussed on the wedding dinner - on who is to be the host and will it be a separate dinner or a combined dinner.
Overall, my parents did not requested anything extraordinary - they left it to the discretion of Bear's side of the family for the amount of the dowry and also the angpow (for the Guo Dai Lai and biscuits/cakes). My parents made it VERY clear that they are not selling their daughter, and therefore should not put a price on me.
*tears*
I was nearly moved to tears ok!
As for the dinner, the groom will play host and hence the invites for mutual friends would come from the groom side.
All in all, it went well beyond what was expected. And both me and Bear are so grateful for that.
Love;
The-Bride-Who-Felt-LOVED
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This Sunday, both my parents and Bear's will meet up for the customary 'tai chan' (i.e. formal proposal) over dinner. This is where both families will negotiate on the finances of the wedding, who is to host the wedding, and of course the dowry.
Hope everything will turn out well.
Love;
The-Worried-Bride
We also discussed on the wedding dinner - on who is to be the host and will it be a separate dinner or a combined dinner.
Overall, my parents did not requested anything extraordinary - they left it to the discretion of Bear's side of the family for the amount of the dowry and also the angpow (for the Guo Dai Lai and biscuits/cakes). My parents made it VERY clear that they are not selling their daughter, and therefore should not put a price on me.
*tears*
I was nearly moved to tears ok!
As for the dinner, the groom will play host and hence the invites for mutual friends would come from the groom side.
All in all, it went well beyond what was expected. And both me and Bear are so grateful for that.
Love;
The-Bride-Who-Felt-LOVED
_________________________________________________
This Sunday, both my parents and Bear's will meet up for the customary 'tai chan' (i.e. formal proposal) over dinner. This is where both families will negotiate on the finances of the wedding, who is to host the wedding, and of course the dowry.
Hope everything will turn out well.
Love;
The-Worried-Bride
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